Miley Cyrus, MTV & Choosing Friends Wisely

KidsIt’s hard to get away from the top storyline of the week.  Sadly, that storyline has nothing to do with the chemical weapons used on the innocents in Syria or the fact that Christians are still being killed for their faith on the streets of Egypt.  Not, the thing that has everyone talking this week is Miley Cyrus and the VMA awards. There have been an array of opinions thrown out by network commentators, entertainment reporters and literally a plethora of bloggers.  Honestly, this story resembles a train wreck; no one can look away, but everyone has an opinion about what caused the train to derail.

MTV isn’t a channel that we watch, so the VMA’s (Video Music Awards) is just another awards show that I usually hear about after the fact.  This year, the only difference was that Facebook and Twitter literally exploded on Sunday night with people discussing the Miley Cyrus performance.  I admit it… I was intrigued. For goodness sakes, what’s twerking? (This from the 45-year-old woman who got into trouble at 17 years old for watching Dirty Dancing!)  Like most of America, when I saw what had become of Hannah Montana, I couldn’t believe my eyes.

Sadness filled my heart.  When I heard that her “new” manager was the same person who had managed the come back career of Britney Spears, my heart sank deeper. Not sure if anyone remembers a few years back when Brittany took to the stage of the same awards show, a python draped over her half naked body.  Then she shocked the audience again by giving Madonna a seductive kiss on the mouth.

Like Miley, this was her attempt at breaking out from under the umbrella of being a child star… and showing the world she was all grown up!

My perspective on this topic is not from the mother of a daughter, but rather someone who has dipped her toe in the entertainment industry long enough to see first hand how important it is to surround oneself with professionals and friends who are not bent on sacrificing the artist in order to re-brand them.

“Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company ruins good morals'” (1 Corinthians 15:33)

So what does this have to do with our kids and the choices that they make?

Quite honestly, a lot.  Being a good parent is vitally important.  Understanding upfront that being our kids’ best friend may be something that sounds awesome, but in reality, we have to be the one who’s job it is to shake up their world before bad decisions are made.  Many times we have to be the uncool adult.  The bad guy.  The only person(s) that say, “NO!”  “No”, to wearing that sexy outfit that “all the other girls are wearing”.  “No” to dating at an age that we feel is too young.  “No” to listening to music or watching movies that are not going to feed their spirit, but give the enemy a foothold into their lives.

And, “No” to hanging out with people who the Holy Spirit moves us to see as being bad influences.

When our kids are home, their decisions are a bit easier to oversee.  But when they leave the protection of our home…our eyes…our rules… that’s when trouble can happen.  It’s so important to make sure the people who they spend time with away from us are like minded people.  Who we choose to befriend matters.  Those relationships can help build us up into who God wants us to become.  They can also have a devastating affect on us.  They can lead us down paths that will spiritually kill us. God’s word specifically tells us to be mindful with whom we associate.  This is yet another lesson we can take from poor Miley Cyrus.

“Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.” Proverbs 13:20

 

Lisa-StrnadLisa Strnad is a weekly contributing writer/blogger to What’s in the Bible? and JellyTelly. She has been a homeschooling mom of two, who works independently in Christian media in the areas of writing, promotions and marketing. She lives with her husband and children in Nashville,TN. Follow her personal blog posts on Talking Like A Girl.

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Deborah Curle
Deborah Curle

It is sad what Miley did to herself in this performance -- she used to talk about being a Christian and going to church but I fear she has lost her credibility and influence. I am assuming her management team had a hand in this "image" and they should be ashamed of themselves.

Amanda Davis-Farias
Amanda Davis-Farias

This is when you tell them "This is why I am the way I am with you. I do not want you to turn out like that. Her mother does not care about her actions, but your actions reflect your entire family."

Marla Tinklepaugh
Marla Tinklepaugh

Andy of Mayberry...Lassie...Mickey Mouse Clubhouse...Rin Tin Tin...My Three Sons...sure do miss those programs and others like them that always seemed to have a good moral basis:(

Cindy Jefferson
Cindy Jefferson

I was up all night almost in tears because I feel in a different place than most people my age. I'm 28 with 2 kids and one due in December. My oldest is almost 5 and I couldn't be prouder because he loves to learn. At home his media consists of old time Disney and veggie tales along with our growing collection of "What's in the Bible". Needless to say, he does socialize outside the home and when I'm seeing posts from people my age and even other women stating "let her do her her thing she's not hurting anyone" I began to fear what influences my child might find outside our home. Not only was I shocked that people are not upset with her display I was made fun of for being uptight about the situation. I looked online for discussion groups involving parents/women/ anyone with good support systems still. Then I just accepted it that I'm "old" and "boring". Oh well

Cheryl Smith Tredway
Cheryl Smith Tredway

I'm a "strict" Mom and do not worry about being cool. We have no cable or satellite and have not allowed our kids to watch any shows on Disney or Nickelodeon. We do not listen to secular pop music, purchase the music or go to concerts. Are our kids deprived? Not at all.

Shannon Salings AuBuchon
Shannon Salings AuBuchon

I'm considered the "strict" Mom among my kids' friends. And that's perfectly okay with me. Kids need to understand there are boundaries that cannot be crossed, that not everything they do will be awarded a cookie and a hug, and that there are consequences for their actions whether good or bad. It's not just girls that need to learn from this episode. Boys also need to understand why a girl would act this way, how not to encourage it, and how to respectfully treat the girls around them.

Jean Bragg
Jean Bragg

My heart is sick for her parents. I saw her dad perform a few years ago at the American Music Theatre in Lancaster, PA. At that time Miley was busy being Hannah Montana & her dad was so proud of his daughter & the positive impact she was making on children. Their family was very close, God & family values were part of the Cyrus children upbringing. We can only pray that Miley finds her way back before the devil digs in any deeper!

Amy Phillips Shaw
Amy Phillips Shaw

Possibly, she did have those adults in her life, but maybe she didn't listen to them--although she is an adult, she is still very young, and young people sometimes learn the hard way. Hopefully she will realize what an empty life she is living, and change her ways.

Amanda Brezina
Amanda Brezina

I think that the most important lesson in this is not to point out what Miley (or Britney, or any other teen star who has been led stray) did "wrong," but to be the parents and mentors to the children in our lives that these teen stars NEED, so that children will know all the "right" things - their self-worth, and the amazing ways they can use their talents in Jesus' name, not in the name of fame.

Amanda Brezina
Amanda Brezina

And a shame that she didn't have adults or mentors in her life to help her to see that she has more worth than what she showed the world. I think that is more sad than the performance she gave.

Erin Day
Erin Day

I'm very thankful that my 6 year old missed the "Hannah Montana" stage.... Also thankful she hasn't been fully introduced to any TV idols period...though I know the day will come where she may be influenced by her friends to idolize someone, we are having the talk with her now about right choices. Praying that she will have open ears to our words :)

Doreen Dath
Doreen Dath

Important that mothers read this if they have children who loved Hannah Montana. What a shame that Miley Cyrus has chosen this way to being a "star"

Bryana Cunningham
Bryana Cunningham

I just had the conversation with my 9 year old about her TV "friends" and what kinds of things that they teach her. She really seemed to grasp the concept and declared that she needed to make the best choice to have "friends" that honor God and that would encourage her to live the same way.